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10 Sexy Ways to Really Spice Up Your Sex Life

Forget about sex, touch is important too when it comes to keeping things spicy.

10 Sexy Ways to Really Spice Up Your Sex Life

When you first start a relationship, you will often find that the sex is exciting and spicy, happening all the time and everything feels fresh and exhilarating. However, as time moves on and you get comfortable with each other, there may be moments when the sex feels boring, one-note, or even relatively monotonous. To fix this problem, it may require spicing things up in the bedroom.

While there are plenty of ways you might try to bring the sexy back, we are going to give you 10 ideas for how to really spice things up. You can choose to try any or all of these tips and even change them to fit your needs, wants, or even your partner’s preferences. This is all about getting sassy and spicing up your sex life so that neither you nor your partner feels like something is missing.

Spice It Up

Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay

Foreplay is important, and if you want to get your spicy on then, you need to engage in the act before getting right into the sex. In fact, couples often find that when you just jump right into sex, without enjoying some fun beforehand, over time, you lose some of the passion and sizzle that marked the start of your relationship.

To really incorporate more foreplay into your sex life, give yourself at least 10 minutes, if not more, where it is all about playing with your partner. This is a chance to seduce each other and explore your bodies together. Offer compliments on your partner’s body and the things that make them sexy to you. Foreplay is more than just a way to turn someone on; it’s also a chance to seduce your partner, spice things up, and make both of you feel wanted.

Bring Sexy Things to Bed with You (And We Don't Mean Just You)

Sometimes adding props can make all the difference when it comes to setting a scene. This means that to spice things up in your sex life, you may want to bring sexy items with you to bed.

There are a lot of options for what you may use to spice things up. You could add silk sheets to the bed, maybe even add some beautiful lingerie, either of these options will add some sizzle without any uncomfortableness. If you want to be more adventurous, bring in some toys, vibrators, or even lubes.

There are plenty of options in this department, including flavored lubes, warming lubes, and even lubes that offer a cool, tingly sensation. This is all about reinvigorating your sex life and getting all your senses engaged.

Move the Sex Out of the Bedroom (AKA Get Your Travel On)

When it comes to spicing things up in the bedroom, sometimes it means moving the sex out of bed altogether. While you may not be into things like voyeurism or exhibitionism, that does not mean that sex out of the bedroom means taking it outside.

Maybe just relocate to the shower (although shower sex is its challenge), take things to the couch, or even break out that fantasy of being bent over the kitchen table. Whatever you decide to do when it comes to changing where you end up engaging in good time, remember that it is all about enjoying yourself and still being comfortable

Another option for moving the sex out of the bedroom includes engaging in sex while on vacation or visiting somewhere new. Even if sex happens in a bedroom, it is still not YOUR bedroom. This change of setting can make all the difference when it comes to spicing things up.

Add a Massage to Your Play

Forget about sex; touch is important too when it comes to keeping things spicy. Instead of making it all about the sex itself, maybe offer to give your partner a sensual massage. Both of you should be naked and make this about touching your partner all over.

Sometimes focusing on something other than sex can make the eventual orgasm that much better. Turn your massage into a chance to explore your partner and get reacquainted with their body really. Even if the massage doesn’t lead to sex, it can still lead to plenty of pleasure and a sense of connection that can make future encounters that much more fun.

Increase Your Sex Appeal ( AKA Get Your Sexy On)

If you feel sexy, your partner will be enticed by that sense of confidence. You want to look good to seduce your partner. This means pampering yourself, whether that is taking a long, hot bath with bubbles or bath bombs, getting your hair cut, your nails done, or even just adding something beautiful to your wardrobe that makes you feel sexy. When you feel beautiful and confident, it can be the perfect aphrodisiac to get your partner revved up and ready to sex you both up.

Break Out the Porn

While not everyone wants to turn to porn to spice things up, it can be a very sexy way to get you both in the mood. Pick something out that you want to watch together. The action on screen might not mirror what happens between you two, but it can certainly inspire enough lust that the clothes come off and the fun kicks into high gear. Remember that this is all about spicing things up, and the porn is just like any of the other props you might include your play.

Play with Your Partner’s Body

Much like with the sensual massage, spicing up your sex life is all about incorporating more touch into your fun. Playing with your partner’s body doesn’t have to be all about sex, it can be about connecting so that sex later is more fun. Get some of the body paints that are out there and paint your partner’s body. This is about having fun together and showing them you love their body. If you don’t want to do paint, you may want to go with something more edible. This could mean breaking out the whipped cream or even the chocolate sauce. Play, have fun, try something new, there is nothing wrong with doing things your way, especially if it helps to add to your connection with your partner.

Be Noisy

Make some noise in the bedroom. If you are usually quiet, break away from that. Whether this includes breaking out some dirty talk, whispering sexy things in your partner’s ear, or even just not holding back the instinctive screams and gasps, noise in the bed means you are having a good time and appreciate what your partner is doing.

Make the Setting Sexy

This goes along with the idea of props in the bedroom; however, these can be less about sex and more about setting the stage for relaxation as well. Candles are a great way to make the setting of your bedroom a sexy experience. Beyond candles, you could also add new pillows/cushions, a new room fragrance that seduces your senses, or even a lamp that doesn’t give off a bright light.

Make Memories

Sexy memories can inspire sex later on in a relationship. Just talking about “that time we…” can be enough to heat things up. When you go on vacation, explore your sexuality together, whether this means trying skinny dipping for the first time, having sex on the beach (careful of the sand), or even just seducing each other under the moonlight. Make memories together that remind you of just how passionate you can be together. These memories can help spice things up when it seems like the heat is missing from the bedroom.

No matter what you do to add the spice back to your sex life, remember to enjoy each other. Seduce each other all the time and just appreciate being together because relationships are about so much more than just sex, but it never hurts to keep things spicy.

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