Having a Healthy Sex Life While Fat ExplainedBy Kimberley Spinney - 3 min read
No one should have to worry about stereotypes when it comes to appreciating or enjoying sex.
When it comes to having a healthy sex life, one’s size really should not be considered a factor. However, it seems that there are still people who appear shocked by the idea of someone overweight having and enjoying sex, especially a lot of sex. With fat shaming being so prevalent nowadays, the last thing people should be doing is questioning someone’s sex life because of their size, and yet it happens all the time, and really isn’t this a sort of shaming on its own?
Much like everyone is different from each other, so too are their sex lives. Some people are genuinely going to be more active sexually than others, and it does not matter how big or small you are. While you may want sex every day, other people may not want sex at all, our sexual appetites do not depend on our weight necessarily, but rather on who we are as people.
While it is perhaps common knowledge that no two people are going to want the same things in life, particularly in terms of sex, this does not mean that there are not plenty of stereotypes that are associated with “fat” people. Perhaps the funniest aspect of many of these stereotypes is that often these inaccurate assumptions are not only patently false, but they even contradict other stereotypes that have been made.
Fat People Don’t Want Sex
We may be chunky, thick, curvy, or any other adjective to describe our bodies, but we are still people, and we still want sex (unless we are asexual). In fact, we want sex just as much as anyone else does. Thinking that someone’s size is going to be an influence on their wants is ridiculous and even prejudiced. Don’t be that person.
Fat People Aren’t Having Much Sex
Again, size is not the issue here. Where there is a will, there is a way, and size will ultimately not hold someone back from having sex if they really want it. While there may be those people not interested in someone because of their size, this does not mean that there are not people out there who enjoy having sex with larger people. The amount of sex a person has is not determined by their size, but rather by their actions and their own needs and wants.
Size Matters When It Comes to Having Sex
First of all, no one ever points to a thinner person and questions them on how much sex they are having, so why do bigger people have that problem? If one’s height isn’t going to be a problem when it comes to sex, then why should weight? Sure there may be some positions you don’t necessarily want to try or engage in, but being fat isn’t the end all, be all of what matters when it comes to having sex.
What About Those Sex Positions…
I already mentioned that there are some sexual positions a person may not want to try, but does this mean they can’t be done? The answer is no. Here is the thing; just because someone may not want to do something, does not mean they can’t do something. Yes, a “fat” girl can be on top when it comes to having sex. No, you won’t get smooshed to death. Getting picked up and held against a wall can happen too. It all depends on your partner. If they are strong enough then what is the issue here?
The reality is that there are plenty of sex positions big girls aren’t going to be comfortable in, but those same positions may not be comfortable for a smaller person either. The Kama Sutra is not for everyone. We aren’t all super flexible or even all that adventurous. As I said before, everyone is different and our likes and wants are all going to be different. The same can be said about what positions we want to try or even enjoy being in when it comes to having sex.
Sexy At Any Size
Sexy comes in all sizes and just because you may be fat, it doesn’t mean you aren’t sexy. Sexy is about confidence. The more confidence you have then the sexier you will be. If you love yourself, then the rest is gravy.
Confidence can be a difficult thing for any woman or man, no matter their size. However, if you work on developing your confidence it is amazing how even the little things can seem unimportant. Sometimes you have to fake it until you make, but if you have someone who also loves you for you, then the rest is all about appreciating who you are.
*No one should have to worry about stereotypes when it comes to appreciating or enjoying sex. Everyone is different and it doesn’t matter how big or small they are, what we want, need, and desire is all based on who we are as individuals. *
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