Are you worthy of love?By Aubree Phillips - 3 min read
Why You Should Give Someone Multiple Chances To Prove Their Worth.
Many people will say this popular saying that “you can’t judge a book by its cover.” However true that saying may be, it also can be about people too. People judge other people ALL the time, whether consciously or not. So for example, if someone were to want to go out on a date with someone else and the judgment was made that the other person isn’t a good fit, then that other person will have no choice but to prove their worth. This article is all about reasons why you should give them the chance to do so.
1. You don’t know what you don’t know.
A couple of years ago I took a communications class and my professor said this, which I didn't understand at first, but now I do. You can try to understand everything, but you can never understand the things that you have not discovered. Imagine all those best foodie blogs that exist that you are now subscribed to. How did you find them? How did you even know that they were the best foodie blogs? This made me want to discover more and more about the world as I uncovered things I didn’t know about before.
The same can be true for people and their worth. You never know their perspective on life, so you may end up making judgments about them based off of what you know to be true about life. Even what I just wrote may be a judgment that you don’t agree with and I may need to prove my worth that I know something in order to feel valid somehow to you.
There are so many things in life that we just don’t know about or understand, and people will have to continuously try to make sense of it all so that they feel valid in what they are doing as well. This is also why it is important to go out on multiple dates with someone before you turn them away as unfit to date. Perhaps it was you all along who was unfit to date...
2. Change is the only constant in life.
This ties in with my earlier point because circumstances change, people change, places change, even opinions change. How is anyone supposed to go about their life wanting to date when they need to be aware of everything?
The answer is to grasp onto the idea that everything you see and know is changeable. This is beneficial to be able to prove your worth because perhaps the next chance you get will help you secure a date you weren’t expecting earlier had things remained the same.
However, that same date could be uninterested in getting to know you, so you will have no choice but to prove your worth, and the other person should be willing to grant you that time and time again until it is agreed upon that you both either like each other or not.
3. Miracles are not impossible.
People may fool you into thinking that they will be who they are or act how they are for the rest of their life, but miracles do happen. Every encounter with someone is making a change somehow which you may have never guessed before, and one day, they make a change which may seem drastic to you, but to them, it was something they were working towards all along.
That may or may not be a miracle, but it just goes to show how everything in life is in motion, it's just about actively seeing it where the differences lie. For instance, all couples fight at some point. What ends the fight is for both people involved to voice their thoughts and feelings and for there to be options on how to make a change to resolve the conflict.
At first, both people are stuck in their old ways, but after a while, both people begin to see that their actions not only affect others but themselves too. Therefore, a change must be made and we call that a miracle. These miracles add up and bolster our worth, which if it is proven to the right person, could mean that the relationship will continue to move forward with less resistance to change.
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