The bedroom is a sacred place. As a couple, it is a space that you use to connect with your partner on a deeper level. Understanding your partner’s wants, likes, and desires when you are turning up the heat is essential to develop a strong bond. With that being said, you might ask – How can I please my partner in bed? Is what I’m doing making her orgasm? Is she faking it? What is it that women really want? These age-old questions have haunted the minds of generations of men. Steffo Shambo, the founder of Tantric Academy of Sacred Sexuality, tantra practitioner, and sex & relationships expert believes that it’s just a case of excellent communication and tender love and care which will give a woman what they truly desire in bed.
Every individual – male or female, has their preferences in how they enjoy engaging in sexual activity. Shambo notes the main issue many couples face is that in the heat of the moment, men may become self-absorbed with their needs. This leads to them failing to cater to what pleasures their partner.
Remember, the sexual experience needs to be fun for both of you. Making sure your partner is enjoying herself should empower you rather than take away from your sexual high. This experience is all about giving and taking, so communicate and talk to one another to make sure you are both comfortable and turned on – this could lead to an energy orgasm!
Steffo also mentions that more often than not, women like to be submissive in the bedroom. Therefore, don’t be afraid to take control of this situation. Ensure that you and your partner have discussed boundaries in the bedroom beforehand, otherwise, ask along the way. This is just to make sure that she feels safe. Experimenting is all about having fun! So don’t be afraid to try new things and further build the trust that you have with your partner.
Foreplay, All Day
These new-found ways to pleasure your partner could lead to an energy orgasm, which will leave her begging for more. It’s important to understand that sex for a woman is more about the sensual touch than just the act of penetration. The key to making your woman feel good in the bedroom is foreplay. Take her on a sensory journey with your touch and your words. Make her beg for more rather than getting straight to the point and only enjoying the experience yourself. You could even try some romantic background music and scented candles to get her senses tingling!
Slow Down, Cowboy
To add to this, Shambo specifies to take it slow. Sex is not a race to see who can finish first. Women like it when you take your time to adore their bodies in every way. It makes her feel good to know that her body is being appreciated. Once you have finished, don’t rush – kiss and caress her. You should be there to just hold her. Just because the physical act of sex is over doesn’t mean you are done connecting. Again, communicate with each other to feel the close connection and make sure that the sexual journey is enjoyable for both of you!
In all honesty, pleasing the leading lady in your life does not have to be difficult. Although it is easy as a man, to get caught up in the moment and only focus on the pleasure you are receiving, making sure that your partner is enjoying herself will only make the experience more powerful and fun – which is what sex is meant to be! As our expert says, communication is the key to ensuring your woman has the best time in bed with you. Asking the right questions and knowing how she likes to be handled will allow her to trust you more and help build a stronger bond between the two of you.