How to Walk Away From a Toxic RelationshipBy Rachel Kithae - 3 min read
A relationship where you’re continually getting abused, humiliated, and belittled is not worth your time.
A relationship where you’re continually getting abused, humiliated, and belittled is not worth your time. Controlling and abusive partners have mastered the art of keeping their slaves in shackles with a mere push button. They never make full commitments in these relationships which leaves the other partner in for a ride. Is the ride enjoyable? Not at all! So what are you waiting for?
Stop Convincing Yourself That Your Partner Will Change
Change comes from an individual. Your partner might often promise change, but it is not that easy. You cannot continue waiting for a grownup to work out their issues when you are hurting, and the situation is deteriorating every day.
Your partner has chosen to handle you the way they do. Probably because they think you cannot walk away and you cannot do better on your own. Instead of hoping for them to change, love yourself more. No one can do it better than you.
Accept and Let Go
It’s OK to feel hurt, but once you accept your situation, your mind and soul will be at peace. You have to ask yourself whether your relationship is worth the sleepless nights and the quarreling. Isn’t it better to start all over again?
Trust me, I know it isn’t easy to start all over, but a few years later, you’ll look back and ask yourself why you didn’t do it sooner.
Cut Off Communication
Avoid contacts with your partner to ease the journey of healing and to fade the memories. You will have to block them and avoid places that bring back their memories. Sometimes you will feel tempted to reach out to them, but you need to remind yourself that it was not a worthy affair. You have to focus on your personal goals.
In addition, you could ignore and distance yourself from the mutual friends you shared. Some of these friends might have hidden intentions. And if not, they will still remind you of the past.
It’s Okay to Break down and Cry
When you feel lost emotionally, and you want to cry, do it. Tears are not a sign of weakness. They help you release your disappointments. Tears wash away the toxic emotions, especially when you are hurting deep.
After crying sincerely, the feeling of resentment towards your partner goes away momentarily. You will walk away with dignity and with your head held up high (by the way you should do precisely that). Never let your partner have the last laugh.
You Deserve the Best; Period!
The courage to let go comes after you realize your true value. You deserve to be happy; you deserve to be loved better. You might have lost yourself clinging to the hope that your partner will change, but that’s all in the past.
And after this drama is over, learn to love yourself. Be lovable and be hopeful; you will meet the right person who will love you for who you are.
Take Some Time Off
Don't feel guilty of having a good rest. Calm your nerves down. Take a walk, travel for vacation, enroll in a class you like, nurture your talent, take a hobby you love, etc. It will build your confidence and boost your value, most especially in your career and life goals.
You could also use this time to be close to your relatives and to those who have a genuine interest at heart.
Take Control of Your Happiness
Finally, nobody else is responsible for your happiness. Your happiness solely depends on you. After a lot of struggle with emotions and letting go, it feels good to reward yourself. A good laugh will not hurt either. Embrace all the positive vibe around you and press on to a positive fun-filled future.
Walking out of a toxic affair will not be a walk in the park. However, the journey is not impossible either. You can achieve it. The best revenge to serve a rogue partner is to forgive them, and let go. But don’t settle at that; prove them wrong by being determined to succeed in your ambitions. It is a bold rewarding step towards freedom.