You May Be Bad In Bed and Not Know It: Here Are the SignsBy Kimberley Spinney - 4 min read
When it comes to sex, the last thing you want is to be bad in bed. Not only do you
When it comes to sex, the last thing you want is to be bad in bed. Not only do you not want to disappoint your partner, but you also want to have a good time, and if you are struggling when it comes to your sexual encounters, then things may not be as good as they could be.
However, while you never want to be bad in bed and might be stumbling pretty hard, that does not mean that you even realize there is a problem. Sometimes you don’t even know that you are bad in bed. This is why you have people willing to give you some hints and things to watch out for that will point to you needing to change things up.
While you do not have to be a porn star to be good in bed, there are still some things that can make a sexual encounter stand out from the pack. In order to figure out if you are bad in bed and need of some help, read on to identify some signs that might indicate that you are stumbling when it comes to a satisfying sexual encounter, not only for yourself but also for your partner.
Signs You May Not Be So Great In the Bedroom
You are self-conscious (and it is obvious)
Being uncomfortable in the bedroom is not a good thing, and if you are dealing with self-confidence issues, then this can have bad results when it comes to your sexual encounters. Being self-conscious can ultimately lead to you holding back with your partner and that is simply no fun. The best way to deal with this is to work on your confidence levels and make sure that when it comes time to enjoy sex with your partner, you are confident enough in yourself to forget your insecurities and just have fun.
Going to Sleep Right After Sex or Even Leaving the Bed to do Other Things Altogether
While there are probably going to be times when you pass out right after having an intense and passionate sexual encounter, if it happens every time you have sex, there may be a problem. On top of that, if you are the kind of person who finishes up and then is up and moving on to the next thing, you need to reevaluate your sex life. An orgasm does not mean that the experience is over. Cuddle with your partner, talk, whatever it is that will keep you both connected. There is nothing wrong with taking a nap together, but sex is not just about getting off, it is about connecting with your partner, and it is important that even after the orgasm, you both find a way to extend that intimacy.
Your Partner Seems To Always Fake Their Orgasms
Although you may not always know if your partner is faking it during sex, there are times when it is pronounced that they just are not that into it. If you find that your partner is seemingly rushing through the action to get things done with, you may need to switch things up. If you aren’t giving your partner what they need, then neither of you are going to end up satisfied. Maybe you need to talk to them to find out what it is that they feel missing. It could be that you’re not spending enough time getting them warmed up or maybe there isn’t enough stimulation for them. Whatever is keeping your partner from achieving an actual orgasm, you have to figure it out and solve the problem, because the last thing you want is a relationship built on bad sex and fake orgasms.
Nothing Changes When it Comes to Your Sex Life
When it comes to sex, things should be fun, and if nothing ever changes, chances are you’re probably boring your partner. As with any relationship, things evolve over time, and the same is true of sex. Sex evolves, and things change, this means that if you’re doing things the same way you always have, it is time to shake yourself out of your comfort zone and make it fun again. There is nothing wrong with “comfort sex,” but remember passion and fun are just as important.
Never Being Prepared
Sometimes sex is spontaneous, and there is no way to prepare or plan for that, but if you always head to bed without cleaning up or brushing your teeth and expect sex to happen, then you may find yourself in for a rude awakening. Being prepared is important because it shows that you not only care about yourself but also your partner. You want to turn your partner on when they think about having sex with you and if they have to worry about your hygiene; sex may end up being the furthest thing from their mind at that point.
Your Only Thought Is About Your Pleasure
If the only thing on your mind is your satisfaction or orgasms, then chances are you aren’t that great in bed. If the only thing you care about is yourself, maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship, to begin with.
Rushing Through Sex
Sure there are times when sex is fast and furious, but not every time. Don’t rush through sex, because there is nothing sexy about that. Take your time and explore each other. Have fun and make every moment count. Not only will this make things good for your partner, but you will learn more about their wants and needs, as well as the things that make them happy.
Sex should be fun, but if only you are having fun, then it is time to step back and reevaluate what you are doing. Your partner should be just as satisfied as you are and if you find yourself questioning if your partner is enjoying themselves, it might be time to sit down and make some changes.
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